Let’s be honest here…. When we talk about being forgiving and feeling liberated by it, are we just fooling ourselves?
If my adversary slapped me on one cheek, should I go all Gandhi on him/her and offer him the other one too?
Let’s think about the natural world of animals and their instincts. It’s fight or flee… Not stay and offer the other cheek.
I hear you….some of you….. saying…. “We’re a more advanced species. We are against violence.” And I completely agree. I’m against it too! I would NEVER go looking for a fight. But if it comes looking for me, to be told to back down, or worse, offer myself up for more humiliation, is cruel and a violation of the natural order of things.
Please…let it be known that this tirade does not mean that we should NOT forgive or NOT be better people….We’re good people. We ALL are good people. But just be sure it’s JUSTIFIED forgiveness.
Random forgiveness just shows that you’re too lazy to analyze whether the person who hurt you really has repented or not.
Let’s just be natural. If you don’t like what someone’s dishing, either tell them, or get away the best you can.
After all, the Great Puzo Sicilian Books say, “To forgive is divine… and we must not mock god by pretending to imitate him. Only god has the power to forgive.” [Not quoted as in book]
And when I stepped back….it got me thinking…. perhaps I’m wrong…. but I’ll be scared shitless if I’m right.